Ladies he cannot be your savior!

Let’s face it that the problem is that most of the women want a hero, a prince charming instilled with perfection. No matter how much you deny but it is true. As we grew up listening to fairy tales of the prince charming, The saviour, The super hero who has to be there to bring the perfect ending. The problem is that men are just as ordinary as women are. The illusion of relating the love life expectations to real ones somewhere brings a tremendous burden on men. In the life of every person, there is at least one person with whom we make a very deep connection. The connection at times is too deep, beyond our greatest and wildest dreams. Women are somewhere wired with the expectation of magic, absolute madness, a courageous person blessed with looks of Brad Pitt for bonus points.

Who is this saviour? Why so much obsession and fascination with the fantasy drama? Isn’t it better to keep it in stories itself and create your own instead? Men are ordinary human beings, the ones who are struggling to fulfil their aspirations, trying their best to make their life stable in every possible manner and meanwhile looking for love. You make him laugh and he makes you laugh. You share your stories and he shares his. You follow your dreams and he follows his. You experience life through him and share the hazy mornings, eventful afternoons and nights. You both follow your own philosophies. Sometimes you both agree and sometimes you don’t. Everything that makes life worth living.

It is okay that someone doesn’t always fulfill your expectations. Desires can wreck your life. There is no nobility in obsessing over something that does not exist. Desire leaves us heartbroken, it wears us out. No matter how perfect you would expect them to be, at some point or another, they will say something that you weren’t expecting them to say, they will do something that, at the time, would be terribly disappointing, and they will sometimes be harsh and mean. Some things really aren’t in our control. It is okay when someone you really love flips out on you or behaves a little irrationally. Love is a funny thing. It turns it all upside down when you don’t really expect it. It is like one day you realize that the fairy tale may be slightly different than you dreamt. The castle, well, it may not be a castle. And it’s not so important happy ever after, just that its happy right now. It is most important to notice that they are trying. It doesn’t matter that they slip. What matters the most is that they atleast try not to slip. They should also be given the room to be a little mean, and a little rude, and a little harsh, because they are after all, just like you. They also deserve a break. They can also break into a tantrum, and that is quite allright. Reality is what you allow it to be. Reality is what you choose to accept it to be. We tend to overlook things we shouldn’t and look over things we needn’t. Wouldn’t it be better if the expectations are withdrawn and they’re allowed to be themselves where you could carve out the extra ordinary out of him? Their care and their actions to prove the same isn’t the best thing which is a sole evidence of the fact that you are going to be his soul mate always.

Life is never as complicated as we, ourselves make it. After all what will bring smile home isn’t going to be diamond ring but it will be the extra work he spent in office to save little extra for it. What you really need to remember and cherish is the thought, and the effort, and the fact that they are with you.

– Sunakshi Goel

9 Reasons a man will get my attention!

1. Intelligence: A guy with an above average intelligence. Who can process thoughts with logic & rationale rather than prejudice. Not necessarily highly educated. Coz we all know education doesn’t make people intelligent.



2. Good Personality: A man not necessarily be good looking but he should have a good personality. His intelligence, grooming & confidence will induce a personality which commands respect. When he enters a room, he would own it. He would carry himself very well irrespective of the clothes he is wearing.


3. Sense of Humour: A man should be able to make me laugh. Rolling on the Floor kinda laugh. Coz Humour is the salt of life. It only makes the taste of life a bit better. (and he should be able to laugh at my silly jokes)



4. Sensitive: Perceptive & appreciative of other people’s feelings that’s what makes a man respected the most. He would never hurt anyone knowingly & if he has unknowingly, he would make amends without feeling ashamed.


5. Understanding: No one wants a man to understand a woman completely. They lose out on their mystery side 😉 Some men don’t need to try. Maybe they are born with it. These men know how to treat a woman & also understand when to just be there for her & not go on the I told you so mode. (And I have a perfect example when I think of a sensitive man, you know who you are)


6. Charming: Yes a man should be charming. But charming doesn’t mean a compulsive flirt, mind you. Maybe it’s his smile, maybe it’s the way he talks. (Someone like Castle, maybe 😉 )


7. Kind: A man who is kind & compassionate to the less fortunate, to old people, to beggars, to animals. He is genuinely concerned about others’ welfare & does something about it when he gets a chance. That is one adorable man.


8. Talent: He could be a writer, painter, guitarist or just be tech savvy. Everyone has got a talent & a man who uses it with a right purpose is oh so attractive!


9. Passion: Last but not the least. Infact the most important quality. I love people who are passionate about something in their life. It could be their work, it could be saving environment, saving puppies, anything. Being passionate means putting your heart & soul into something you want. Men who are passionate know their purpose in life. Everything else in a man is born out of this passion.



This is not just a random post. This is a tribute to all the men I know who possess these qualities. Read & Smile you guys 😀