Dictionary defines Virginity as, “state of a person who has never engaged in sexual intercourse”
A man’s virginity is of no importance. However, a woman’s virginity is supposed to be her prized possession.
Virginity of a woman is a necessity for her marriage. A guy does not need to know if a woman would be compatible life partner or not. All he needs to know is if the woman can cook & if she is “pure”
And when girls are auctioned like cattles, virgin girls get the highest bids.
This is the reason hymenoplasty is a rage in some part of the world.
A woman who has lost her virginity before marriage is deemed to be of a loose character. A person who has no morals & would be unfaithful to her partner.
People behave as if women are not supposed to have sexual desires. It is all right for men to have sex before marriage or countless partners but God forbid if women do the same.
A broken tissue, which can very well be due to various non sex related factors, creates an issue which forces women to feel guilty, humiliated & even shunned from society.
One question for men here, you want virgin wives for yourself. And you have sex before marriage, probably with unmarried girls. Don’t you want those girls to get married?
It is high time we stop making an issue out of a tissue. Stop judging a person’s sex life. Stop labeling women as sluts just because they gave in to their desires.
And women, it is high time you stopped being guilty just because you actually enjoyed something. It’s your life & you have every right to enjoy life’s pleasures 🙂
2 thoughts on “Virginity – An Issue over a tissue?”
Laddoo… yaar… i love you. For sheer bravery to put this up. I call it bravery because it is for me. Honestly I am not so brave to discuss all this. Yeah I know that does not really portrays a good picture about me but I guess you will understand that why I am hesitant. But seriously reading you and other ladies who speak boldly about periods and virginity and all so called tabooed subjects gives me inspiration and strength to come out of my shell too. Hopefully I come out of all these stupid taboos soon 🙂
lots of love
Aditi, Trust me I am not any different from you. My parents read my posts for God’s sake! I couldn’t even imagine writing about this stuff. But there comes a time in your life when you have to shed your inhibitions. Grow as a writer. Grow as a person. We want society to be changed, then we have to start somewhere. Starting with expressing our thoughts freely 🙂
You know what after reading your comments on the period post, first time in my life I told my dad I am having my periods, when he asked why I was not feeling well. Because I don’t want to be ashamed of it anymore 🙂 You inspire me a lot, hope you know that. Much love to you too 🙂